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"But the real dumps are a much more insidious lie."

Alissa, this essay is so fucking good.

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So beautifully written for something so insidious

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As the Mom of a teenage daughter, this essay wrecks me. Thank you for articulating so much of what I also see and feel.

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May 8, 2023Liked by Alissa Mears

Alissa!!! This piece is so urgent and so clarifying. Thank you, my brilliant friend.

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You may not know it, but you are waging a war. So I cheer you on soldier, for fighting a good warfare for the soul of women around the world - especially online.

It has been over a decade since I read Hamlet (an aunt got it for me as my 10th-year birthday gift) so I hardly remember Ophelia or even the beautiful lessons of the story. However, via your essay, it feels like I am in the same room with Ophelia and my heart breaks for her.

As you said, the commodification of girls is not new but the bite is far worse. I agree. And that line, as simple as it gets, does a lot to stand up to those who say that because an evil is not new, it really is no problem. However, we have a new scale of the 'same' evil. And surely, changes in degree almost always result in a change in kind.

Anyhow, great essay and goodluck on your fight.

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